In a Christ-like spirit, both are to submit to one another (Ephesians 5:21). God told Hosea to marry this prostitute as a visual lesson for all of Godâs people. It causes me to renew those prayers, which, for some months, I have put up to God that He would be pleased to send me a daughter of Abraham to be my wife.â Scripture and my conscience tells me that divorce is wrong and not God's intention. God loves me and he meant for me to be born. I married my husband in a civil wedding. That is what 1 Peter 3:1-4 is all about; living a life that is pleasing to GodâA life that reflects His nature to the world, and of course, to my husband. The more I invite God into my life and marriage, the more real He becomes to me. God showed me to learn of Godâs love, embrace it, and give to Steve the love that God gives to me. My parents had true love. We only have control over one party to the marriageâ¦ourselves. However, if you want to leave our marriage, I cannot stop you, but as I said, I will not do anything to help you proceed with a divorce. My husband has cheated on me with several women. God expects me to be a biblical wife, even if my husband never embraces his godly role in our marriage. Yes, there are good reasons to walk away, and I may have even been justified in doing so, but I knew God had other plans for me and for my marriage. Which makes sense. To wives, Godâs instruction is to submit to their husbandsâ leadership (verse 22) and to respect their husbands (verse 33). Yes, God Could Save Your Marriage, but that Doesn't Mean He Will. If both spouses are living up to their biblical responsibilities, there will be joy and happiness in the marriage. Jolene i have stumbled on this in search for answers to my marriage problems you have given me courage and strength.My husband lusts on all women.At first i thought it was a mere gave but it went on and on and now he can not keep his eyes off my maids.It is so disturbing that i want out now.I have talked ⦠He answers my prayers. One thing the enemy canât trouble me with is Godâs love for me, I know he loves me and these trials come to make me strong but I need Gods help so badly. Sometimes God does want you to stay in an abusive relationship depending on what kind of abuse it is. When I say giving up is not an option I first mean, giving up on Jesus and my salvation then secondly my marriage. What does it matter if I want to be married if thatâs never going to happen? Even through all of these changes, I canât allow myself to give up on my marriage. That old belief that we should be able to fix the problems. I know this is a fierce blow, but do your best to calmly ask your wife to give you a more in-depth answer as to why sheâs leaving you. He showed me that I could have hope and trust in Him, and over time, I was able to rebuild trust and hope with my husband. It was a good one, which made me a better person. That relationship made me believe even more in the goodness of God, but after breaking it I have so much less believe in Him. What can I do? Thatâs what I did when we came close to divorcing a number of years ago. I know HE wants to bless my marriage, and wants to be the center of it. I decided to work on my own issues (there were plenty and still are some here and there that I am working on), and see what God does. Over time, God began to heal my heart. He gives me hope, conviction, encouragement and counsel. I know itâs hard to wait, but I wouldnât give up on marriage ⦠I have been believing God for a miracle in my marriage restoration for almost two years. I want to give you permission to say you want to leave a bad marriage. He has cursed my womb and says that he does not want to have any children with me. I was told much about marriage. And yes it has been hard and there are times that I want to give up, but whenever I feel like that, God always gives me the strength to keep going. I thought I was not worthy of Godâs love and I should not had been born because of my parents being married before. There are days that I wonder if I just pack up and leave if he will come home and cheer that Iâve left. He is a born again but backslidden ⦠It is terribly sad and painful to accept. for a week of marriage we got a big problem that cause him for me kick out in his house and I just found out that my husband stop the certificate to release it broke my heart and I felt just got rape cause I was keeping my self to be virgin and only give it to a man I will marry. My family and non-church friends have all told me to let her go and move on with my life. If he refuses to meet with the counselor/pastor or mentor, go by yourself and get the help you need for yourself and your marriage. response by Michael November 12th, 2014 at 9:58 am . 3. Be Wary of Searching for Justification to Leave. I am a 40 year-old, thin but curvy, educated, attractive white woman who treats everyone with kindness and is financially self-sufficient. “As God unites us in the presence of our family and friends, I give you my firm commitment to be faithful and loyal to you, in sickness and in health, good times or bad, in sadness and in joy. We spend time and energy and give up who we are and what we want in hopes of making the marriage work. Living that way is a challenge when bills pile up, communication breaks down and youâre just plain irritated with your husband or wife. Please agree with me for the restoration of my marriage! Around that same time, another single friend told me, âIt hurts to keep hoping. What is easily forgotten is that it takes two to make a marriage work. My husband does not have a relationship with Christ, so God is not the center of our marriage. He offers His perspective. I donât want it to end. When you want to give up on marriage, donât be paralyzed by fear â Take prayerful action. So, I am going to give you some answers to the test that some of you might not expect to see. I feel like the decision to remarry is between you and God. As companions on the way of life, husband and wife can work together as a team, and learn to love one another more and more, so they can grow together in everything ⦠I grew up in church. We are living in a world that tells people they donât have to tolerate any abuse from anyone and can just leave every relationship for any type of perceived or actual abuse. But these 7 truths about marriage I never heard in church. Listen to the praise offered by a well-traveled George Whitefield after observing carefully the marriage of Jonathon and Sarah Edwards: âA sweeter couple I have not yet seen. I do promise to love you unconditionally , to help you make your dreams come true and to respect and ⦠Because if you refuse to admit you want out, then there is no place for you to begin healing. But I know God does not want that for my marriage. And if thatâs the case, more patience on your part is necessary. A. Itâs important to note that my claim that God does have in mind a specific person for you to marry, Joe, is an inference from the general doctrine of divine providence ().On the view of divine providence which I find most biblical and philosophically coherent (namely, a view based on divine middle knowledge), God ⦠God took care of me after my parentsâ divorce, and He can take care of your kids, too. On my article about how to cope when youâre unhappily married, a reader said she knows deep down that she should give up on her marriage, but she keeps hoping things will improve. They care about me and donât want to see me hurt anymore, but Iâve learned from the bible that we must find joy through suffering. So I determined in my heart that if my marriage failed, it would be because my husband walked away, not me. Itâs easy to see why God designed an other-centered union for a me-centered world. I wasnât giving up on my marriage. In applying myself to love my wife as Godâs daughter, God makes himself more real to me every day. Iâm still praying to God if He can give me my relationship back. One word of caution, though: when we are completely and utterly miserable in our marriage, and we want to give up trying, quite often we look for reasons to leave. Iâm stunned that my marriage might be over. I spent most of my time with Christian people. Part of me just wants to give up on marriage and get on with making my life as good as possible without a husband.â I think a lot of singles feel this way. A Baptist preacher would not marry them in 1960. Marriage is an other-centered union. To me a marriage is between God ⦠For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.â The other day my wife came home from work and said sheâs leaving me because she doesnât love me anymore. He and I started to work on our ⦠I almost give up on my marriage, for 6 years now, I've tried my best to keep my marriage working through prayers and commitments, but my husband is still seem not ready for a change. God gives the reason for this marriage: âGo, take to yourself a wife of whoredom and have children of whoredom, for the land commits great whoredom by forsaking the Lord.â Hoseaâs marriage was a powerful picture of Godâs pursuit of ⦠Many women (and men!) Maximizing your eternal happiness is, because God said â this is really crucial, I think, of marriage â âRejoice in tribulation because tribulation works patience and patience works approvedness and approvedness works hope and this hope does not disappointâ (Romans 5:3â5). The only time I believe in giving up on a marriage is when one of them dies, or if after their divorce one of them marries someone else, or if one of them continues involvement in a sin that makes the marriage impossible. He gives me His strength. Pray that God will give you the right words so your hubby hears the spirit of God. One thing that I know is that God will never give up on me and my family. I refuse to give up on what I know in my heart is right; however, my husband has lost hope in us. It was in those first months that He asked me to wait and to see how He would redeem my heart and my marriage. In Matthew 7:7-8, Jesus said, âAsk and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. If that counts as cruelty or abuse by my husband, sign me up ⦠God blessed the marriage relationship from the beginning (Genesis 1:27-28), and He clearly intended it to be one of mutual trust in and faithfulness to one another. 1.) How untrue. Thank you so much for the encouragement. God is not perfect, he also makes mistakes I believe. When Should You Give Up on a Marriage? Thank you all for the encouragement to keep standing for my marriage. As my attempt to encourage you, let me just offer that if God hasnât answered you directly that He wants you to remain single all your life, it seems likely that He still has marriage in mind for you. But there some things on the test I did not learn until marriage began. So I would appreciate your prayers for my marriage. He leads a worldly lifestyle and goes out to drink and womanize. 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